Excuse two: “It’s my wife’s fault”.
Some form of this phrase starred in virtually every message we received.
It really isn’t exactly that these guys wanted a lady whom works, raises kiddies, keeps the home, constantly looks perfect and has a tendency to her man’s every intimate whim, they feel these are typically eligible to one, as soon as their Stepford Wife happens to be a human being, they feel cheated.
After a few years, in place of “it’s all her faultthat I feel is part of her role as my spouse, and as a penalty I am entitled to pursue other women”” I began hearing “she is not keeping up her end of the bargain.
I am perhaps perhaps not all-knowing.
It is feasible that in some full instances it is actually all somebody else’s fault, but I don’t believe all 24 males that We talked to married uncaring ice queens whom hate intercourse.
The healthiness of a relationship just isn’t entirely a responsibility that is female. Females don’t have to avoid their guys from straying, as though guys are alley kitties without any feeling of accountability. Although, evidently…
Excuse three: “It’s science”.
Biology ended up being cited as cause for infidelity by 15 males.
“Men distribute their seed, lol, it’s just what we’re supposed to do,” said one. “If you learn about evolutionary psychology, men are ‘meant’ to be with several females” said another. “I favor breathtaking girls like your self,” said a guy more than my dad.
“I don’t think it is reasonable for males become limited by one girl, it really isn’t within our DNA.”
I am aware a complete great deal about therapy and biology, but I’m also very good at spotting sexist rationalisation once I view it. [Read more…]